根据真实故事改编
为鲍比祈祷
1982年
1979年 加州 沃纳溪
Alright you two. That's enough. 好啦 你们俩别闹了
I like her. 我喜欢她
I think she likes you. 我觉得她喜欢你
What tells you that mum? 妈妈 别乱讲
Here you go mum. 吹蜡烛吧 妈妈
This is such a nice day. 今天是个好日子
Who knows this? 谁知道这句话的出处
May those who love you, 愿爱你的人
Be like the sun when it rises in its strength. 如初升的太阳般茁壮
Corinthians? 是《歌林多后书》吗
Judges 5:31. 是《士师记》[圣经旧约]第五章31节
So grandma, how old are you again? 奶奶 再问您一次 您高寿了
Never mind. 就不告诉你
You know you shouldn't ask for the age... 你不该问年龄的
That's very nice! 真不错
Save some for me, will you? 给我留点
That's very nice! 真漂亮
Who's that from? 是谁送的
From you and Mary! 是你和玛丽送的
You are correct! 没错
I was just testing. 我只是考考您
Remember mum? 妈妈 您记得吗
We were at the mall 我们逛商场的时候
And you said you liked that. 你看中了这个
So I went back and I got it for you. 我跑回去给您买的
Nancy honey, get me my purse. 南希宝贝 把包给我拿来
Why am I always the one to ask to get the purse? 怎么每次都让我去拿包啊
Youngest Griffith girl's the purse mule. 格里菲斯家的老幺去拿包吧
Oh grandma.Open mine. 奶奶 拆我的礼物吧
Why do I have to be the purse mule? 为什么一定要我去拿
Ok. Fine. 好吧 我来
Yes, I think it suits me. 我背很合适
What do you guys think? 你们觉得呢
Grandma, that is a lovely shade of lipstick. 奶奶 那是很美的唇膏印
Beautiful! 很漂亮
Ed stop it. 爱德华 别闹了
Why? What's wrong mum? 为什么 这怎么了 妈妈
It's disgusting. 真恶心
If you ask me, 要我说
Queers should all be lined up and shot. 同性恋都该被枪毙
Didn't you say that last year about the giants? 去年您不是说该枪毙的是大力士吗
What did you say? 你说什么
Never mind. 没什么
What is this? 这是什么
It's a journal. 是记事本
Like a diary. 像日记本一样
I don't need any more stuff. 我才不需要这个
Mum!! 妈妈
- What? - I'll go. -怎么了 -我去看看她
It's a good thing we didn't get you the pen. 还好我们没送您笔
You can't take it personal. 别放在心上
It's grandma. 奶奶就是这样
You know the rules. She's mean sometimes. 你知道的 她有时候很难伺候
Then we get a free pass to make fun of her. 然后我们就尽情取笑她
Bobby, she picks at me. 鲍比 她看我不顺眼
Nobody ever picks on you. You're the favorite. 没人和你过不去 大家最喜欢你
So what's it like to be perfect? 做完美的人是什么感觉
I'm perfect? 我完美吗
You think I'm perfect? 你觉得我完美吗
Have you looked in a mirror lately? 你没照镜子看看自己吗
You're Charlie's next angel, ok? 你就像霹雳娇娃一样美
Can I have it? 能送给我吗
You don't want it. 你才不喜欢呢
Well, I'm taking it. 我想要这个
I'm gonna fill this up in a week. 我一星期就能写满
Come on. Let's go celebrate grandmas' 39-39 birthday. 来吧 我们去给奶奶庆祝生日 39加39岁
I am ready. 我准备好了
What? 什么
I wanna go further. 我想更进一步
Is... Is something wrong? I thought you'd want to... 有什么不对吗 我以为你想...
Here? I mean, this isn't really what I had in mind. 在这里吗 这和我想象的不太一样
It doesn't have to be here. 不一定非在这里
I should go. I have to get up early tomorrow. 我得走了 我明天要早起
Is something wrong? 你怎么了
I don't think this is gonna work. 这觉得我们不合适
I think we should break up. 我想和你分手
I thought you liked me... I came to meet your family. 我以为你喜欢我 我都见过你的家人了
I just don't want to get that serious. 我不想搞得太认真了
Well, it doesn't have to be serious, ok? 不需要很认真
It's not you, it's me. 不关你的事 是我的问题
I'm sorry. 我很抱歉
You wanna watch with me? 要和我一起看吗
I'm tired. 我有点累
Oh come on! 来吧
Who else can I get to watch an old black and white movie? 除了你没人愿意陪我看黑白老电影
You know if it's not John Wayne, your dad's not interested. 你爸爸只喜欢看约翰·韦恩的戏
It's really scary. 真可怕
You know this scene's famous? 知道吗 这一幕很有名
Really? 是吗
You know they got that glass of milk to glow? 知道吗 他们让那杯牛奶发光
How? 怎么发光
Well hitchcock put a lightbulb inside the glass so 希区柯克在杯子里放了个灯泡
The audience would know the milk was poisonous. 观众会知道牛奶里面有毒
No kidding. 是吗
That's clever. 真聪明
How do you know that? 你怎么知道的
Cause I'm brilliant. 因为我很聪明
You are brilliant! 没错
Take it away; I'm eating too much. 你吃吧 我吃得太多了
I think there's something wrong with me. 我觉得自己有点不对劲
That's for sure. 我肯定
What you think mum would do if she 你猜 如果妈妈发现我们当中
Found out one of us was a psychoptath? 有人心理有问题 她会怎么做
What you mean "if"? 你说"如果"是什么意思
You know she's always saying... 你知道 她常说...
The whole family's gonna be together in the afterlife? 下辈子一家人还会在一起
What if one of us is a sinner? 如果有人成了罪人怎么办
Have you sinned with Michelle? 你把米歇尔怎么了
I promise I won't tell. 我发誓会保密的
It's not that. 不是那件事
I'm just... 我只是
Thinking about stuff, you know? 思考一些事情
You think too much. 你想太多啦
It's dangerous. 这很危险
That's why I avoid it at all cost. 所以我才尽力避免
Yeah? 是吗
I'm glad we talked. 和你谈完轻松多了
Seriously, something... Something wrong? 说真的 出了什么事吗
No. 没有
Relax, cause I'm your big bro. I'm just looking out for you. 别担心 我是你哥哥 会照顾你的
What's up Bobby? 你好吗 鲍比
Ready to go? 能走了吗
Hey Bobby. 鲍比
Cheryl. 谢丽尔
She's not your type, too much eye shadow. 她不是你喜欢的类型 妆太浓了
What's wrong with Michelle? 你跟米歇尔怎么了
We broke up. 我们分手了
Talk to you guys later. 回头再聊
Not telling the truth... 将秘密深埋心底
Sometimes I feel like I'm at the edge of a cliff, 有时我感觉自己像是站在悬崖边
Looking down at the crashing surf 看着下面波涛汹涌
With nowhere to go but down. 无处可去 只能纵身跃下
I used to have these fun dreams when I was so free. 闲暇时 我常做古怪的梦
But now, as I fly, 现在 我在飞翔
I'm afraid. 我很害怕
They are telephone lines and electrical wires. 电话线和电线
How painful it would be to run into one. 挂着上面会有多痛
I wonder if I'll ever be free again. 我是否能重获自由
阿司匹林
Hello? 有人在吗
Bobby? Bobby? 鲍比 鲍比
Hey! Bobby? What did you do? Ha? 鲍比 你做了什么
Did you take these? 你吃了这个吗
Answer me! 回答我
No! 没有
Is that the truth? 真的吗
I couldn't do it, ok? Get off me. 我没吃 放开我
I wanted to but I couldn't. 我想死 但我做不到
What's wrong with you? 你到底怎么了
Why I couldn't do it? 我为什么不能那么做
Because it's a sin. 因为那是罪恶的
Bobby, what are you talking about? 鲍比 你在说什么
I didn't wanna go to hell, but... 我不想下地狱 但是
I am. 我已经在地狱里了
Cause this is worse. 事情越来越糟
Bobby, you're scaring me. What's going on? 鲍比 你吓着我了 到底怎么了
You'd all hate me. 你们都会讨厌我的
I know it. I know that if you guys 我知道的 我知道如果你们
Knew the truth, you'd hate me. 了解真相 你们会讨厌我的
No. 不
Whatever it is... 不管是什么
We'll tell mum... 我们要告诉妈妈
No! 不行
No. Mum wouldn't understand. Ok? She can't know. 不 妈妈不会理解的 不能让她知道
Then you have to tell me right now. 那么 你现在就告诉我
I'm not like you Ed. 我和你不一样 爱德华
So what? 那又怎样
I keep trying. 我一直在尝试
I keep telling myself that one day I'm gonna wake 我试着告诉自己 总有一天 我会清醒
Up and it's gonna be different. But it's not. 一切都会变好 但并不是这样
I don't dream... 我不像你
About girls, like you do. 会幻想女孩子
I dream about guys. 我幻想的都是男生
You're gay?! 你是同性恋吗
See? 听听
You even say it like you hate me. 你的口气就透着嫌恶
Bob, give me a break. 鲍比 别这样
I don't know what to do! 我不知道该怎么办
-We'll tell mum and dad. -No! -我们要告诉爸爸妈妈 -不
No. 不
They can help, Bobby. 他们会帮我们的 鲍比
They always want us to come to them. 他们希望我们遇事和他们商量
They can help. 他们能帮我们
I can't! Ok? 不可以
And you're not gonna say anything either. 你也不许说
Promise me. 答应我
Promise me you're not gonna say anything. 答应我你什么也不会说
Ed, promise! 爱德华 你保证
Ok. 好吧
I promise. 我保证
Mum, if there was something wrong with one of your kids, 妈妈 您常说 如果我们有事
You always said that we should come to you... 应该对您说
What did you do? 你闯了什么祸
It's not me, it's Bobby. 不是我 是鲍比
What is it? 怎么了
I didn't want to tell you but he was... 我本不想告诉你 但是他...
In such a bad shape, I'm really worried about him. 状态很不好 我很担心他
He thinks... 他觉得
He might be homosexual. 他可能是同性恋
He's not. 不可能
He didn't want me to tell you. He 他不让我告诉你
Was gonna take a bunch of aspirins. 他都打算吃阿司匹林自杀了
Ok? 知道吗
You know... He trusted me, you can't go too hard on him. 他信任我才告诉我 您别对他太严厉
Ok, good. It's good. 好的 我知道
I'm glad you told me. 还好你告诉我了
There's no doubt in my mind that god can handle this. 我绝对相信上帝可以解决这个问题
He'll help us. 他会帮助我们的
He'll heal Bobby. 他会治好鲍比
In order for all of us to be 为了让我们所有人
Together in the kingdom of heaven, 能够到天堂重聚
We cannot stray. 我们不能行差踏错
We can't sin like that. 不能犯那样的错误
That is a terrible sin. 这是严重的罪孽
The bible calls it an abomination. 《圣经》称之为 亵渎
In Leviticus, if a man lies with another man, 《利未记》中提过 如果两个男人交媾
They should both be put to death. 他们都将被处死
I will not raise my family not 我不会让我的家人
Being together in the next life. 在下一世分离
Mary. Can we please worry about this life 玛丽 我们在担心下辈子之前
Before we worry about the next life? 先顾这辈子
Hey. What's going on? 发生什么事了
Isn't there a problem you need to tell us about? 你没有什么事要对我们说吗
- No... - Bobby -没有 -鲍比
If there is something wrong, you 如果你有问题
Need to share it with your family. 你可以和家人分享
- How could you? - Bobby... -你怎么可以这样对我 -鲍比
I'm gonna kill you! 我要杀了你
No! 不
Ok, ok. Enough! 够了
I was worried about you! 我很担心你
I trusted you! 我信任你
Calm down! 冷静点
Hey, Ed. Go find some room. 爱德华 进屋去
Bobby, we're your family. 鲍比 我们是一家人
We can get through this. 会没事的
I know that if we trust in god, we can get through this. 如果我们相信上帝 就会度过此劫
It's curable with his help. 他会治好你的
I'm sorry. 我很抱歉
I can't help it. 我控制不了自己
I don't even want it mum! What do I do? 我也不想这样 妈妈 我该怎么办
Bobby, you're not gay. 鲍比 你不是同性恋
You're probably just... 你只不过是...
You haven't met a girl that you're really attracted to. 没有遇到倾心的女子
Please... 求你
Mum, please don't tell anyone please... 妈妈 求你不要告诉任何人
- Mum, please don't tell anyone. - It's all right. -妈妈 求你不要告诉任何人 -好了
It's gonna be fine. 会没事的
I was worried about you. 我担心你
What was I supposed to do? 你想我怎么做
I'm out of here. 我出去睡
Thank you again for joining us 再次感谢大家收听
I'm pastor Raymond 我是雷蒙德神父
And we'll take another call, 我们再接一通电话
I advise you to live according to 我建议你 依靠圣洁的灵魂
Your new life in the holy spirit 开始你的新生活
Then you won't be doing... 这样你就不会
What your sinful nature craves. 被邪恶的灵魂所驱使
When the holy spirit controls your life, 当圣洁的灵魂占据你的生命之时
It will produce love, joy and kindness, 会产生爱 愉悦和仁慈
Goodness and self-control. 善良和自制力
Does everyone have to know? 需要这样吗
We're your family. We love you. 我们是一家人 我们爱你
我心灵纯洁 受上帝之善良庇佑
We still love you, bobby. 我们依然爱你 鲍比
Yeah ,thanks, can i get some privacy? 谢谢 我能有点隐私吗
- Hi Mary! - Hi -嘿 玛丽 -嘿
If a homosexual who wants to renounce homosexual reality 当一个同性恋否认自己的性取向时
Finds a psychiastrist who 找一个知道如何
Knows how to cure homosexuality... 治愈同性恋的心理医生
He has every chance of becoming... 他很有可能可以变成
A happy well adjusted heterosexual. 一个快乐正常的异性恋
Do you hear any voices? 你有幻听吗
No. 没有
Do you ever hear any ringing sounds? 你有耳鸣吗
No. 没有
Is that the phone? 电话响了吗
It was a joke. 开玩笑的
So you think you're a homosexual? 所以你认为自己是同性恋吗
Bobby, how many girls have you been with? 鲍比 你和多少个女孩交往过
I don't know. Two. 忘记了 两个吧
Had sexual relations with? 有过性关系吗
Then how do you know for sure? 那你怎么确定自己是同性恋
I just... 我只是
Have these feelings, you know? 有那种感觉 你知道吗
I don't mean you know. I mean... 我不是说你知道 我是说
I have these feelings. 我有那种感觉
Do you want to be homosexual? 你想当同性恋吗
I just wanna be close with my family again. 我只想重新亲近我的家人
I feel like I slipped up and now I can't... 一失足成千古恨
Get back. 无法回头
I'm not gonna be able to help you... 我没办法帮你
If you don't answer my questions. 除非你正面回答我的问题
No, I don't wanna be this way. 不 我不想当同性恋
I'm gonna talk with your mother alone for a minute, ok? 我要和你母亲单独谈一下 好吗
She wants to talk to you. 她想和你谈
He can be cured. Right? 你可以治愈他的 对吗
He has to be willing to really put the work in. 他需要自愿接受改变才行
He is. I know he is. 他当然想 我知道的
And I think it would be good, it would be important 我认为会有效果 更为重要的是
To have your husband come join us in therapy. 你丈夫也能来参加疗程
Right... 好吧
How did it go? 情况如何
She said we should spend some more time together. 她建议我们应该花多点时间在一起
Maybe the two of you could spend 或许你俩应该
Some quality time together. 花多点时间亲近亲近
Yes, sure. 当然 没问题
That's all she said for 60$ an hour? 60美元一小时 她就这点建议吗
She also wants the 3 of us to go to a few sessions together. 她还建议我们三个一起参加若干疗程
What? So it's our fault? 难道还是我们的错吗
No no... I don't know about it but it's fine if he goes. 我搞不懂 你和他去就行了
Bob, I want you to be a part of this. 鲍伯 我需要你帮我
I can't do it alone, ok? 我一个人不行
I read that homosexuals have sex in public bathrooms, 书上说同性恋在公共澡堂做爱
And that they recruit children. 他们还引诱小孩
What are you saying? 你想说什么
Do you think Bobby was recruited? 你觉得鲍比是被人引诱的吗
Come on Mary, you're going overboard. 拜托 玛丽 你想太多了
You got to do something about this. I won't lose him. 你得做点什么 我不要失去他
Dear lord, we ask that you keep Bobby safe from temptation. 仁慈的主啊 请你让鲍比平安且远离诱惑
Please help him return to a pure heart. 帮助他找回纯洁的心
Do you think this will heal me? 你以为这样我就可以治愈吗
You have to trust the god will heal you. 你得相信主可以治愈你
And that satan will try to discourage you. 撒旦只会把你拖下无尽深渊
Do you trust in god? 你相信上帝吗
Yeah. 嗯
Now let me go to sleep. 让我睡觉吧
When temptation is all around you, 当我们置身于诱惑之中
Faith is not enough. It requires discipline 光有信念是不够的 我们需要自律
Not just mental, but physical. 不仅仅是精神上 还有肉体上的
Who would like to share their story? 谁愿意和大家分享一下自身的经历
I used to be so unhappy. 我曾经很抑郁
I stayed out all night, 夜不归宿
I talked back to my mother. 跟我妈妈顶嘴
Since coming here and accepting jesus as my savior, 自从来到这里 奉耶稣为我的救世主
I've changed.. 我改变了
My mum and I are like best friends now. 我和妈妈现在成了最好的朋友
That's great Kerry. 太棒了 凯莉
The power of prayer and hard work. 这就是祷告和集会的力量
Bobby what about you? How are you coming along? 鲍比你呢 你做的怎么样
Good... 还行
Well, you feel better. Don't you? 你看起来好多了 不是吗
I can see it in your eyes. 我能从你的眼神看出来
Your hard works' paid off. Hasn't it? 你的努力有所回报了 不是吗
Yeah... 是吧
Let's sing, shall we? 让我们唱起颂歌
Nothing I do seems to make a difference. 似乎无论我怎么做都是一样
I try to act like them but it feels impossible. 我试着像他们一样 但做不到
It's an awful feeling to believe you can 想到自己会直接掉进炼狱
Be headed straight for the fires of hell. 这种痛楚无法言喻
Even worse is everyone telling 更甚的是每个人
You how simple the solution is. 都说解决方法是如何简单
They don't know what it is to be in my shoes. 他们也不会感同身受
I'm running, I'm not eating junk food. 我坚持跑步 拒绝垃圾食品
Good, good! 很好 很好
Yeah, that's good but... 是很好 可是
I don't know the point of it. 我不明白这有什么意义
I mean, my face has cleared up but 我是说 我的气色是好多了
Everything else feels the same. 但其余一切照旧
Well you have to stick with it. 你得持之以恒
Do you like the people in your group? 小组里的人怎么样
They're ok. 都还行
This one girl, she... 有个女生 她...
You know, I hope you're taking this seriously. 你能不能认真对待这事
I mean that I hope you are trying with all your might. 我说真的 我希望你尽自己的全力
I cannot lose you to this. 我不能因为这个失去你
You won't. 你不会的
Have faith! 要有信心
Well this is gonna be fun. 这肯定会很好玩
When was the last time all the 上一次格里菲斯家的男人
Griffith men went hiking together? 集体远足是什么时候了
So how's school? 在学校怎样
Good. 还行
You thought about your plans? 有想过什么计划吗
Well college... 上大学吧
No, I mean... 不 我的意思是
Life plans. 生活规划
Well, I'm still thinking of becoming a writer. 我还是想当一名作家
Listen Bobby, you always had a strong imagination. 听着 鲍比 你有丰富的想象力
And we've always been alright with that. 这没什么不好
But you're getting to the age where 但当你到了一定年纪
You're gonna have to get practical. 你该学会面对现实
Alright, dreams... 说到作家
They're great when you're young, but... 你年轻时候还可以
They don't really have... 可是作家
Really have a place in the real world. 在现实中好比浮萍 难以立足
Yeah. 嗯
You hear what I'm saying to you? 你有听进去我的话吗
- yeah. - alright, alright. Le'ts go, let's move. -嗯 -好了 快点走
Alright. 好吧
How did it go? 玩得怎么样
I'm "healed". 我被"治好"了
It was fine. 没事
Did you two talk? 你们有谈过吗
Yeah, we talked. 当然
What did you talk about? 你们谈了什么
Mary, it was fine. 玛丽 谈的挺好的
No, but this is important. 这个很重要
This could make him or break him. 关乎到造就他或是让他自生自灭
I did the best I could. Is that alright with you? 我尽我所能了 你还不满意吗
A lot of times, confusions like Bobby's 很多情况下 鲍比的困惑
Can be caused by a distant father or an overbearing mother. 可能源自父亲的冷漠和母亲的专横
Well, I had both but I'm fine. 我父母两样占齐 可我也没事啊
Bob? 鲍伯
You need to participate in this. 我们需要你认真对待这事
I'm right here Mary. I'm in the room. 我在这里 玛丽 我在这个房间里
I think... 我觉得
I've been a very good father. 我是个好父亲
And maybe you don't know this but Bobby. 你可能不清楚 但鲍比...
I mean he was never into... 我是说 他从来不喜欢
The stuffs his brother or other boys into it. 他哥哥或其他男孩喜欢的那些
He's just not interesting. 他就是不感兴趣
So i am not gonna force him. 我不会去强迫他喜欢
Hi Bobby I'm Sheila. 鲍比 我是谢娜
Mum, who's that? 妈妈 那是谁
Sheila is a student in my sunday school class. 谢娜是我周日学校课堂的学生
You got me a date? 你是给我找对象吗
You need to go out with lots of girls. 你得接触多点女孩
And your dad thinks so too. 你爸也是这样想的
Can I at least pick my own? 至少能让我自己选吗
Do not thing your arm. 不要叉着腰
Have fun. 玩开心点
You look nifty. Do you want a brownie for energy? 你帅极了 来点饼干吗 补充能量
take them up! No?! 端出去吧
Hello. Who's this? 嗨 这位是谁
That's my brother ed. 我哥哥爱德华
- Hi. -Hi, I'm Sheila. -嗨 -嗨 我叫谢娜
- Nice to meet you. - Nice to meet you too. -很高兴见到你 -我也是
- Are you up to see my friends? - Yeah! -要不要过去见见我朋友 -当然
So you're never gonna talk to me again? 你再也不跟我说话了吗
Look at where you got me. 你看你给我惹的麻烦
What if she wants me to kiss her goodnight? 如果她走时要和我吻别怎么办
Tell her you're gay. 就说你是同志啊
Watch out fag. 看着点 基佬
Did you tell your friends? 你跟你朋友说了吗
Bobby, that's not my friend. 鲍比 那不是我朋友
You told everyone I'm gay? 你跟所有人讲我是同性恋了吗
I haven't told anyone. Stop being so paranoid. 我谁都没说 别再疑神疑鬼了
You all hate me for it. 你们都讨厌我
I know you don't think I see it but I do. 你们以为我看不出来 可是错了
I gotta go. 我要走了
Bobby... 鲍比
It's 3 in the morning! 现在是凌晨3点
Sorry I lost track of time. 抱歉 我忘记看时间了
Where were you? 你去哪了
Bobby... 鲍比
You weren't with homosexuals, were you? 你该不是去和同性恋鬼混了吧
This is not you. 你不是这样的
This is temptation working its ways. 这只是诱惑在作祟
You have to pray harder if you're going to get well. 如果你想康复 你得更加用心去祷告
Good night, mum. 晚安 妈妈
Pray for forgiveness right away. 现在就去祈求主的宽恕
你们祷告 无论求之何物 只要信 后必有所得 --马修
It was fine, girls. But I gotta go. 这很好 女士们 我得走了
Ok. 好的
Bobby! Hey! 那不是鲍比吗
Where's Joy? 乔伊去哪了
She's at work so she asked me to pick you up. 她来不了 叫我开车来接你
You're welcome. 不用谢
- what's with you? - what? -你怎么回事 -什么
You think I didn't notice that? 你觉得我会没注意到吗
You don't want your friends to see me. 你不想让你的朋友看见我
Some people wouldn't understand. 有些人不会理解
And now it's so obvious... 就这么明显吗
What did you tell them? 你为何不直接告诉他们
Well look the way you're wearing. 看看你穿的是什么
And I told you time after time not 我跟你讲了一次又一次
To do that thing with your arm. 不要把手叉在腰上
Makes you look like a girl and you continue to do it. 这会显得你像女生 你就是不听
- I'm always dressed this way. - no, -我总是这样穿的 -不
You haven't. It's gotten worse. 你以前不是 现在更糟糕
Why you're doing this? I'm trying to help you. 你为什么要这样做 我在帮你啊
No, you're not. 不 你没有
You're trying to help you it's not about me. It's 你只是在帮你自己 问题不在我
About what people think about you. 而在别人怎么看你
Imagine that they thought your son is some big queen 想象一下要是她们知道你儿子是个同性恋
What's wrong with you? Stop that! 你到底怎么回事 别这样
- Nice mum, great - le'ts go home! -很好 妈妈 太好了 -我们回家
- I'm walking. - No! -我走路 -别
Where are you going? 你去哪
I haven't seen you around here before. 我之前没在这见过你
You are really beautiful. 你真的好美
I gotta go. 我得走了
Can I call you? 我可以给你打电话吗
No. 不行
教会庆祝同志游行 教会欢迎你们
Bobby... 鲍比
Don't worry. I was at church. 别瞎操心 我去教堂了
- Hi cousin - I have a name. It's gorgeous cousin. -表弟 -我有名字的 应该是帅表弟
So, how long you're here for? 你准备在这待多久
Just a day, I'm driving home tonight. 就今天 晚上开车回去
I came to see my dad. But I couldn't resist stopping by. 本来是去看老爸的 但忍不住先来看你们
Maybe it's not a choice. Maybe I just can't help it. 或许这不是什么选择 或许我根本没得选
So you say that stealing's not a choice. 你这等于说盗窃也是没得选
What? 什么
Aunt Mary, lunch is delicious. 玛丽婶婶 午餐很美味
Joy's right ,Bobby. 乔伊说的对 鲍比
The bible says men committed shameless acts with men and received 圣经说 男人之间行可耻之事
In their own's person the due penalty for their error." 将众多罪罚尽加己身
You just won't change, will you? 你不会改变的 是吗
I can't erase what's in the bible. 这些句子不会从圣经中抹去
Personnally, I think people should 个人认为 每个人
Be able to love whoever they want. 都有权利去追求自己所爱
Did I mention how good lunch is? 我刚才有说午餐很好吃吗
Even animals know what to do it with. 连动物都知道找谁交配
Actually, our dog does it with a pillow... 其实我们的狗对着枕头也会...
Can we please find something different to discuss? 我们能换个话题吗
Ed, why don't you tell us about college? 爱德华 说说你大学的事情
I dropped school last week. 我上周退学了
You what? 你什么
Well, what about college? 那大学怎么办
I'm not going. 不上了
Great! 太好了
What's next? 接下来是什么
You wanna ruin your life? 毁掉你的人生吗
Yeah well it's my life to ruin. 毁掉的也是我的人生
Is it like this at every meal? 每顿饭都像这样吗
Pretty much. 差不多
You should come up and visit me in Portland. It's so great! 你该来波特兰看看我 那里很棒
I used to envy you.. 我曾经好羡慕你
When I came here with mum and dad, I always 每次我和爸妈来这里
Wished your parents were my parents. 我总希望你父母是我父母
You all seemed so close. 你们以前是那么其乐融融
Well that's over with. 那已经过去了
I think they love the sinners. Not the sin. 他们认为不该爱我
They should love the son no matter what the sin. 他们应该爱儿子 不管他犯了什么罪孽
Hey that's good. 瞧我说的
I'm gonna start my own bible. 我应该自己写本圣经
Think about coming to Portland? 想一下来波特兰
Hi Mrs. Griffith! 格里菲斯夫人
Is bobby here? 鲍比在吗
Bobby! 鲍比
You know it's enough you go 你出去鬼混就算了
God knows where are you at night. 天知道你晚上都去哪
But now you're bringing these 但现在你把这些
Deviants into my house. 异形带来我家
It's my house too. 这也是我家
And they're my friends. 而且他们是我的朋友
Is that what that boy is? 那不男不女的是你的朋友吗
Is it a sin to have friends now too Mum? 把自己的朋友带回家也是罪吗 妈
We have a good time, ok? 我们在一起很开心 知道吗
We go to the rock choir together. 我们一起出合唱团的
Does it mean we're all gonna get strucked down? 你的意思是我们都该被封杀了吗
They're gay, aren't they? 他们是同性恋 对吧
I thought you were getting better. 我以为你已经好起来了
When? 什么时候
When I was miserable? 当我痛苦的时候吗
That looked like I was getting better? 这像是我好起来的样子吗
You're right Mum! 你说得对 妈
I'm doomed just to roast in hell! 我注定要在地狱中煎熬
Don't say that. 不许这样说
That's what your bible says! 你的圣经上是这样说的
The bible also says a person can change. 圣经上还说人是可以改变的
I tried Mum. I can't! 我尝试过了 妈 我不行
Why do you keep choosing this? 为什么你坚持这样选择
Why would I choose this? 为什么我要这样选择
Why would I choose to have my entire family hate me? 为什么我选择让整个家庭恨我吗
No we love you. 不 我们爱你
Can't you see that's why we're doing this? 你难道不知道我们为什么这么做吗
Really mum? Is that what love feels like? 真的吗 妈 这就是爱的表现吗
Have fun in Portland. 在波特兰玩得开心
Here's an issue for your vacation. 这是给你的旅行杂志
I hope you like it. 我希望你喜欢
Promise me you'll write and call all the time? 你保证会一直写信和打电话给我
It's two months. 只有两个月啦
Drive carefully. 小心驾驶
Don't worry madam. 请不要担心 夫人
You call me when you get to Portland. 到波特兰以后打电话给我
I had this engraved with your initials. 这上面刻有你名字的首字母
I love you guys. 我爱你们
Bye Bobby. 再见 鲍比
Already I'm glad to be away from Walnut Creek. 我已经为离开沃纳溪高兴了
This feels like a new life. 这感觉像是重生
A new day. 全新的一天
I'm gonna be a success in every way I can. 我会用尽努力获得成功
It's my goal to achieve, 这是我要实现的目标
A sense of pride, 成为有自豪感
And worth as a human being. 有价值感的人
Gorgeous cousin. 我的帅表弟
Welcome to Portland! 欢迎来到波特兰
Trust me... 相信我
You don't find clubs like this back home. 你在家乡肯定找不到这样的夜店
I'll see. 眼见为实
Welcome to London house cousin. 欢迎来到伦敦之夜 表弟
This is amazing! 这真是太棒了
Let's go boogie. 我们去跳舞吧
David! 戴维
Janette! 珍妮
This is my cousin Bobby. 这是我的表弟鲍比
Nice to finally meet you Bobby! 终于见到你了 鲍比
So Janette tells me your mum wants 珍妮告诉我你妈妈
To cure you of your gayness. 想要治愈你的同性恋倾向
Yeah, well... 是的
My parents don't really understand it. 我的父母无法理解
Do yours? 你的父母呢
They didn't first. 他们刚开始也不能
But, they eventually came around. 但是 后来他们理解了
How did you get them to change? 你是怎么让他们改变的
Well, one day, 有一天
I told them accept what I am, or forget it. 我告诉他们 接受真实的我 要不就忘了我吧
I know my Mum means well, but I 我知道我妈的意图是好的
Don't know if she'll ever accept me. 但我不知道她是否会接受我
Just don't stop trying. 不要放弃就好
父母应理解同性恋子女
Have a great trip. 一路顺风
Don't let her get to you. 不要让她影响了你
And don't be afraid to stand up to her. 并且不要害怕和她正面对峙
Too much flew by fast. 一下子发生这么多事
I'll call you when I get home. 到家以后打电话给你
You'd better. 你最好别忘了
Well. Look who's home. 看看谁到家了
- Hey Dad. - Hey, come here, come here. -好啊 爸 -好啊 过来过来
Just in time for dinner. Come on in. 正好赶上吃饭时间 进来吧
That's funny. 这真有趣
So how was Portland? 波特兰怎么样啊
Portland was great. 波特兰很棒
Good! 好极了
I'm thinking of maybe moving there 我想或许我能搬去那
For a little bit. 住一段时间
Moving there? 搬到那
I met someone... 我和某人约会了
A guy. 一个男的
Girls... 丫头们
Give me a hand with this. 快来给我帮忙
We're supposed to pretend we didn't hear that? 我们得假装没听到吗
Yes. 是的
Bobby... 鲍比
This might not have been the right time. 现在说这个有些不合时宜
I know. 我知道
I'm sorry.. 我很抱歉
You should start thinking 你得开始考虑
About college for next fall. 明天秋天上大学的事了
You need to get your GED first. 你得先通过高中毕业考试
I mean... It's ok to take some time off but... 你休息一段时间是没问题的 但是
Did you hear me? 你听到我说的了吗
I don't wanna know. 我不想知道
I want you to know. 我想要你知道
His name's David. 他叫戴维
We always start at the beginning every time 我们每一次都是从这开始
And if we're not getting any more different 但如果我们得不出结论的话
let's just not go there. 还是不要谈了
When I'm with him, 当我和他一起时
It feels so... 我感觉
Good! 很棒
He treats me well... 他对我很好
He's funny and he's smart... 他很幽默 他很聪明
Stop. I mean it. I don't wanna hear it. 住嘴 我是认真的 我不想听
And you know I don't. 你是知道的
I spent the last year listening to you 我去年一整年都在听你说话
And you're gonna listen to me for once. 你现在只要听我一次
It feels good when I'm with David. 我和戴维在一起感觉很好
But if he touches me in public, 但如果他在公共场合碰我
Or god forbids, kisses me, 更有甚者 亲了我
I pull away. 我会推开
I feel ashame. 我感觉很羞耻
Because you know it's wrong. 因为你知道这是不对的
Because you told me it's wrong. 因为你告诉我这是不对的
It's not me. It's the bible. 不是我 是圣经
It's not the bible. It's you! 不是圣经 是你
Why can't you admit that? 你为什么就不能承认呢
Why can't you admit that 为什么你就不能承认
You can't stand what I am? 你无法忍受这样的我
What you've become! 是你变成的样子
What I am! 是我本来的样子
I'm sorry. I'm not the perfect 我很抱歉 我不是你一直
Little Bobby you always wanted. 想要的完美小鲍比
But I can't keep apologizing for it Mum. 但我不能为此而一直道歉 妈
Accept what I am, or forget it! 接受真实的我 要不就忘了我吧
I won't have a gay son. 我不要自己的儿子是同性恋
Then Mum you don't have a son. 那你就当没有我这个儿子吧
Fine. 好吧
Bobby... 鲍比
Did you really think she'd change, Bobby? 你认为她会改变吗 鲍比
She meant it. 她是真心的
She meant that. 她真心的不想要一个同性恋儿子
I really want you to be happy. 我真的希望你能快乐
And I'm sure that guy's really nice. 我肯定他是个很好的男孩
No matter what. She'll never accept it. 无论如何 她都不会接受的
It's gonna be a lonely life because 这注定是孤独的生活 因为
He'll never be welcome here. 这里永远不会欢迎他
And for Christmas, Thanksgiving, anything. 不管是圣诞节 感恩节 还是其他的什么
Don't worry about Mum too much. 不要太担心你妈
She'll come around. 她会理解的
I'm not gonna hold my breath. 我不会一直干等的
Here you go. 给你
The parachute pants! 降落伞裤啊
Thanks. 谢了
I'll send you my first novel when I write it. 我会把我的第一本小说寄给你
Bye buck-tooth! 再见 兔牙
Take care, ok? 保重 好吗
Drive safe. 小心开车
... Most of the new cases up to 5 a day 大多数新病例似乎都发生在
Seem to be settled in the homosexual community... 同性恋社区 已经达到一天五起
The AIDS becoming known as the gay disease? 难道艾滋病已成为同性恋疾病了吗
Well... Your mum went a lot for your birthday. 看来你妈妈为了你的生日跑了很多地方嘛
No card. 没有贺卡
A sweater and "AIDS - the wrath of God". 一件毛衣和"艾滋 上帝的愤怒"
Happy birthday! 祝我生日快乐
You can't expect anything different from her, Bobby. 你不能指望她有什么改变 鲍比
She's not gonna change. 她是不会变的
Birthdays were always a big deal for all of us. 生日对我们全家来说一直是一件大事
I'm just not in the all of us anymore. 我已经不属于家的一份子了
Can't get that throughout my head. 还是没有法接受这个事实
There's David. 戴维来了
Talk to you later. 再聊
You sure this is ok? 你确定这样合适吗
They're gonna love you. 他们肯定会喜欢你的
Let's go. 我们走吧
Dad, do you have to tell that story? 爸 你非说那事不可吗
Hey, I felt I had to. 我觉得我有必要说
Yes. And I've got about a dozen more where 是的 我还有无数个新故事
That came from if you're interested. 如果你有兴趣听的话
Oh, oh no thanks. 不用了
So Bobby... 鲍比
Tell us more about you. 和我们说说你的事
You grew up in Walnut Creek, right? 你在沃纳溪长大 对吧
David says you're very close to your family. 戴维是你和你的家人很亲近
Yeah. 是的
So how are your parents with you being gay? 那你的父母怎么看待你是同性恋这件事
Not good. 不是很好
Maybe it's hard for them at first. 可能他们刚开始很难接受
They'll come around. 他们会理解的
You seem like a wonderful young man. 你看起来是一个很出色的青年人
I'm sure they love you. 我肯定他们很爱你
- Cheers to that! - Cheers to that! -为此干杯 -为此干杯
It's great to meet you Bobby. 很高兴认识你 鲍比
So how did you guys meet? 你们是怎么认识的
You know Janette?... 你知道珍妮吧
It's a sin. 这是罪恶
It's not natural. 这不正常
He'll never be welcome here. 这里永远不会欢迎他
Why do you keep choosing this? 你为什么坚持这样选择
Sometimes I hurt so bad... 有时我感觉很受伤
And I'm scared and I'm alone. 我很害怕 我很孤单
I'm sure they love you. 我肯定他们很爱你
I'm damned. 我注定遭厄运
I'm slowly sinking in a vast lake of quick sand. 我在一片巨大而湍流的沙石中慢慢下沉
A bottomless pool. 像一个无底洞
I wish I could crawl under a rock 我想就在石下蜷居
And sleep forever. 长眠
You've reached David. 你已经接通戴维
I'm not here right now but if you leave a message 我现在不在 请在提示音后留言
After the beep, I'll get right back to you. 我会马上回复你
Have a good one... 祝好
Hey David, it's Bobby. 戴维 是我 鲍比
I thought you'd be there. 我以为你会在
Look I'm... 听着 我
I really need someone to talk to 真的需要和一个人谈谈
And I was hoping you'd be there. 我还希望你能在
Please, Dear lord, 亲爱的上帝
Continue to convict Bobby's heart off sin. 请求您继续宽恕鲍比罪恶的心吧
That he may find his way 这样他就能找他的路
The way of purity, 通向纯洁的道路
The way of the righteous. 通向正直的道路
It's a sin. 这是罪恶
It's not natural. 这不正常
I won't have a gay son. 我不要自己的儿子是同性恋
You're gonna be late for school. 你上学要迟到了
You're the one who slept in. 你才是睡过头了
Ok, then we're both gonna be late for school. 好吧 我们都要上学迟到了
Meet you in the car. 车上见
OK! 好的
Hello? 你好
Janette, what's wrong? 珍妮 发生了什么
No... 不可能
What's wrong? 怎么了
No... 不可能
What's wrong? 怎么了
Nancy, get out of here! 南茜 滚一边去
Dad! 爸
Daddy... 爸爸
Hello. 你好
Hi. Hi, Janette... 嗨 嗨 珍妮
Mary, you've been called up front 玛丽 有人找你
And he said to bring your purse. 他还说叫你带好钱包
Probably one of the kids that needs money again. 应该是我的小孩又要钱了
I need a break anyway. 反正我也需要休息了
Bye. 拜
What is it? 怎么了
Bobby killed himself. 鲍比自杀了
He jumped off a bridge. 他从桥上跳了下去
He... He's gone. 他...已经走了
Help me! 帮帮我
Help me!! 帮帮我
My son is dead! Let me out! 我儿子死了 让我出去
Let me out! 让我出去
My son is dead! Let me out! 我儿子死了 让我出去
Joy, slow down. What's wrong? 乔伊 慢点说 怎么了
Thank you. 谢谢
Death of a loved one is always tragic 挚爱的人过世永远都是悲剧
But the death of a young person 尤其是一位年轻人的过世
Can be particularly painful. 更是无比之痛
Because that person had his whole life ahead of him. 因为他本来是前途无量的
Bobby was only 20 years old. 鲍比年仅20岁
We'll never know who he could have been. 我们永远也不知道他会成为怎样的人
Or what he could have accomplished. 或是他能取得怎样的成就
Bobby was a good young man but he was lost. 鲍比是一个好青年 但是迷失了自我
By giving into temptation, he strayed. 在诱惑中 迷失了自我
Then disillusioned, 最终幻想破灭
He chose to end his life. 他选择结束自己的生命
Now we know to condemn the sin, 现在我们知道应该谴责罪恶
Not the sinner, 而非罪人
It was this sin that Bobby succombed to. 这是一个鲍比无法摆脱的罪恶
It led to his unhappiness. 这导致了他的不幸
And it led him 也导致了他
To take his own life. 结束自己的生命
As goodness begets goodness, 善有善报
So does sin begets sin. 恶有恶归
They're ok with this? 这么说不过分吗
They're running low on sandwiches. 三明治不够了
Mum, do you think Bobby got salvation? 妈妈 你觉得鲍比会得到救赎吗
I don't know. 不知道
Suicide is a sin. 自杀是种原罪
But maybe God knows that Bobby wasn't in his right mind?. 不过也许上帝知道那不是鲍比的本意
I mean... Why would God allow Booby to go to hell 我是说 如果上帝有能力治好鲍比
If it was in his power to cure him? 为什么还要让他掉进地狱
I don't know Mary! 我不知道 玛丽
Clear yourself together. 你也别想了
People are unconfortable enough. 大家已经够伤心的了
Thank for coming. 感谢您的到来
I'm so sorry for your loss. 我为您儿子的死感到遗憾
Mrs Griffith. Mr. Griffith.. 格里菲斯先生 格里菲斯夫人
I'm David. 我是戴维
I was a friend of Bobby's. 我是鲍比的朋友
I wanna offer my condolences. 我想表示我的哀悼之情
He was an amazing young man. 他是个很出色的年轻人
I'm so sorry. 我很遗憾
Aunt Mary... 玛丽婶婶
David is a good person. 戴维是个好人
All of Bobby's friends were. 鲍比的朋友都是
When Bobby was here, he was under control. 鲍比在这的时候 他还控制着自己
Then he moves to Portland 等他搬到波特兰
And someone puts all these ideas into his head. 某些人给他灌输了这些鬼思想
It wasn't like that. 不是你说的那样
David cared for Bobby. 戴维在乎鲍比
We're his family. 我们是他的家人
We know how to help me, 我们知道该怎么帮他
He wanted to change, to be closer to god. 他想要改变 想更靠近上帝
To be closer to YOU! 想更靠近你
Then he went further and further into that life style 然后他越来越陷入了同性恋的生活方式
And he couldn't get out. 无法自拔
Do you believe everything they tell you in church? 你信教堂里说的一切吗
I know you and uncle Bob meant with that serment... 我知道你和鲍伯叔叔不同意同性恋
Bobby knew the repercussions about homosexual lifestyle. 鲍比知道做同性恋的后果
Bobby was good, descent and kind. 鲍比是个好人 他谦卑 和善
Someone who didn't even know Bobby 那人根本不了解鲍比
Stood up there and condemned him, and you let him. 还站在那谴责他 你居然不管
Bobby did everything he could 鲍比做了所有他能做的
To make himself acceptable to you. 就为了让你接受他
He was so good, and bright, and funny. He should be praised. 他聪明 幽默 他应该得到赞美
I'm sorry you can't see it that way. 很遗憾你看不到那些
Maybe you should go. 也许你该走了
Fine. 好
I left Bobby's things in his room. 我把鲍比的东西放他房间里了
Bobby! 鲍比
Hey Mum! 妈妈
Don't you ever do that again!I knew it wasn't true. 再也不许这样了 我知道这都不是真的
I knew God would bring you back to me. 我就知道上帝会把你带回我身边的
Mum, you worry too much. 妈 你过虑了
I'm slowly sinking in a vast lake of quick sands. 我在一片巨大而湍流的沙石中慢慢下沉
A bottomless pool. 像一个无底洞
I wish I could crawl under a rock and sleep forever. 我想就在石下蜷居 长眠
No one understands me. 没人能理解我
No one in this house can accept my side of the story. 这房子里的人都不能接受我
I can feel god's eyes looking down on me with pity. 我能感觉到上帝用怜悯的眼光俯视着我
I can't never let anyone find out I'm not straight. 所有人都会知道我是个同性恋
It would be so humiliating... 真的好丢脸
My friends would hate me. 我的朋友都讨厌我
And my family... 还有家人
Mum 妈妈
I've overheard them. 我听到他们的谈话
Thank you. 谢谢
They've said that they hate gays. 他们说他们讨厌同性恋
And even God hates gays. 连上帝都讨厌同性恋
It really scares me when they talk that way 那真的吓到我了
Because now they are talking about me. 因为我就是个同性恋
I don't wanna choose sin. 我不想选择成为原罪
I don't. 我真的不想
I'm so mad and frustrated god... 我真的对上帝很生气也很困惑
I seem to be at the end of the road. 我好像已经走到了路的尽头
Why do you remain silent? 为什么你还在保持沉默
May 30th. 5月30日
Memorial Day Barbecue. 纪念日 室外烤肉
Had fun. 很开心
Mum was sweet and funny self. 妈妈很贴心 还很幽默
Like the old Mum... 像以前的妈妈
For a second it felt like the old days. 有一瞬间真的仿佛回到了从前
She smiled at something I said, 她因我的话而开心的笑
And I saw on her eyes that for a second she forgot 有一瞬间我看她的眼神 仿佛真的忘了
What she really thinks of me. 她究竟是怎么想我的
The anger never erupts. 仿佛愤怒从没有爆发过
My timid nature would never allow 我胆怯的天性根本承受不住
A full fledged thunderstorm to occur. 这家里的狂风暴雨
But it's there, on the horizon. 可它就这么发生了
I can feel god's eyes looking down on me with such pity. 我能感受到上帝充满怜悯的俯视着我
He can't help me though. 尽管他帮不了我
Because i've chosen sin over righteousness. 因为在罪恶和正义之间我选择了前者
Excuse me! 不好意思
You alright Ed? 你还好吗 爱德华
Oh yeah, I'm fantastic. I think we all are. Isn't that obvious? 我很好 我想大家都很好 不明显吗
Ed. We have to deal with this as a family. 爱德华 我们一家人必须一起来处理这件事
That was your answer for Bobby too but it didn't work. 鲍比的事你也是这么说的可那根本没用
Damned! 妈的
I'll go. I'll go. 我去 我去
Excuse me. 不好意思
Come, Nancy. 来 南茜
You wanna get out of here, maybe go for a beer? 出去走走吗 来点啤酒?
Did he even think about what he would do to us? 他就一点都没想到我们吗
He could have called... 他可以给我们打电话的
Or something but... 或是其他什么的可是...
Not just screw us, right? 就这样让我们心痛
Ed... 爱德华
Nothing no! No goodbye, no note, 什么都没有 没有告别 没有留言
Nothing. Just... 什么都没有 就那么...
I'm sorry Bobby. 对不起 鲍比
I'm sorry. 对不起
Are you happy now? 你现在好受了吧
I'm sorry Bobby. 对不起 鲍比
Are you happy now? 你现在好受了吧
Ed... 爱德华
It's not your fault. 这不是你的错
There must be other Bobbys out there. 一定还有很多像鲍比这样的人
Other young gay people who may be thinking of taking their lives. 想结束自己生命的年轻同性恋者
Does the church reach out to them? 教堂有接触到他们吗
There are other churches to do that. 有些教堂接触了
Reverend Joseph asked us to tell you 牧师约瑟夫让我们告诉您
How sorry he is for your loss. 他对您儿子的事情深表遗憾
We can come back in a couple of weeks and check in on your f... 我们可以过几周再来 来看看您的家...
You don't understand, do you... 你不明白 对吗
I don't know what to do. 我不知道该怎么做
I need to make peace with this and I can't. 我想要心安理得可我做不到
The lord says the impure will be thrown into the lake of fire. 上帝说污秽的灵魂将被投入火海
Bobby... 鲍比
Sinned! 罪孽深重
But he was pure of heart. 可是他有颗纯净的心
He'd never knowingly hurt anyone. 他从未故意伤害过别人
Is that enough? 这样够吗
Is it? 够吗
Dear god, 亲爱的上帝
My relationship to you leaves something to be desired. 我对你还有些乞求
I have never asked of you, 我从来没有向你索求过
Only given, as I was told. 只有给予 就像你告诉我的那样
Your holy spirit has taught me so much... 你的圣灵教授我如此之多
But now there's more I need to know. 但我现在需要知道更多
I can't. 我不想
Ok. 好吧
I think I'm gonna sleep in the living room. 我去客厅睡
城市公共教堂
Reverend? 牧师吗
Mary Griffith. 我是玛丽·格里菲斯
Nice to have you with us, Mary. 很高兴你过来 玛丽
The bible... 圣经
It says that homosexuality is a sin punishable by death. 说同性恋是一种应被处以死刑的罪恶
Do you believe that? 你信吗
There are other interpretations of the bible, Mrs Griffith. 圣经上有各种各样的解释 格里菲斯夫人
My son... 我的儿子
Was gay... 是同性恋
And he killed himself. 他自杀了
Is there an other interpretation of that? 这是那另外的一种解释吗
I'm sorry. 很抱歉
What was his name? 他叫什么
Bobby. 鲍比
Bobby Griffith. 鲍比·格里菲斯
I saw him here a couple of times. 我在这见过他几次
My Bobby? 我儿子吗
He always sat way in the back. 他总是坐在很后面
He stopped coming. 后来他不来了
I am so sorry. 我很抱歉
You must be... 你应该...
I need answers. 我要知道答案
I need to know where he is. 我要知道他现在在哪
Is homosexuality an unforgivable sin? 同性恋是一种不可被饶恕的罪行吗
Leviticus, 18:22 says: 利未记[圣经旧约] 第18章第22节说
If a man lies with another man, 如果两个男人交媾
It is an abomination.? 这是一种亵渎吗
An abomination, in that time, didn't mean sin. 亵渎 不意味着是原罪
It meant unclean. 那意味着不圣洁
Leviticus also goes on to 利未记也说
Say eating shellfish is an abomination. 吃贝类物是亵渎
Or mixing fabrics... 还有编织
Leviticus 20:13 利未记 第20章第13节
If a man lies with another man, they both should be put to death.? 如果两个男人交媾 他们都该被处死
And then he says the same thing about an adultere, 里面还说 通奸和违令父母
Or a child that disobeys their parents. 也该被处死
And we certainly don't interpret that scripture litteraly. 我们当然不能只从字面上去理解经文
In Deuteronomy 22, 申命记第22章里
If a woman is not a virgin on her wedding day, 如果一个女人在结婚当日不是处女
She should be taken to her father's house and stoned to death.? 她应该被带到父亲的房子后被砸死
So what do you tell people who come here? 那你对来这的那些人怎么说
Gay people... 那些同性恋
That homosexuality is ok? 同性恋没什么吗
That it is permissible in god's eyes? 在上帝眼中这能被允许吗
I tell them what I believe to be the truth: 我告诉他们我认为的真理
That God loves them as they are. 上帝爱他们 不论他们是谁
God's vengeance is great. 上帝的复仇之心是强大的
So is his compassion. 他的恻隐之心也是
You shouldn't teach them that homoseuxality is ok. 你不应该教他们同性恋没事
That's not what the bible says. 那不是圣经中说的
It just confuses them more. 那只会让他们更困惑
Mrs Griffith, 格里菲斯夫人
If you'd like to come back during the week and talk, 如果你周末想来加入我们的谈话
My door is open, 我的大门向你敞开
But not to be blamed. 但不是被责备
Ok? 好吗
I think that we got a pretty good one, 我们弄了棵很漂亮的圣诞树
Nice and full. 漂亮还布满装饰
A couple of balls like your dear old dad. 这球球像你老爸的秃顶一样闪亮
Or grandma... 或祖母的
Yeah... 对
Mum, can we hang this one on the tree? 妈妈 咱们能把这个挂在树上吗
I remember when he made this. 我记得他做这个的时候
Second grade. 二年级
Mrs Towns' class, I think. 我记得是在唐斯太太的班上
He was so proud of himself. 他可自豪了
Where do you want to put it? 你想挂哪
Up high. 高高的
So he can look out. 这样他就能看到了
Hey, they work. 它亮了
I'm gonna go check on my cookies. 我去看看我的饼干
I found the passage you talked about. 我看了你之前说过的章节
About stoning to death 关于石刑
Deuteronomy, 22. 申命记第22章
But what about Sodom and Gommorah? 但桑多和哥莫若呢
God punishes the sin of homosexuality. 上帝惩罚了他们同性恋的罪行
How do you explain that? 那个你怎么解释
It's nice to see you too, Mary. 很高兴见到你 玛丽
What's this for? 这是要干嘛
It's a roomish sale. 物件拍卖
All gay people have roomish too. 同性恋者们也都有
So... What about Sodom and Gommorah? 那桑多和哥莫若呢
Many scholars think this sin was greed and not homosexuality. 许多教徒认为他们的罪是贪婪而非同性恋
And it wasn't labeled homosexuality until years 被写出来后他们也不会就此被
After it was written. 标上同性恋的标签
Do you have answers for all these things 你对所有的事情
Just to justify being that way? 都有自己的一套理论吗
You have answers to justify that it's wrong. 你的理论是错的
I guess we're in an impass here. 好像咱们看法很不同啊
So you think it's ok to interpret the bible 那你觉得随心所欲用你的想法
Any way you want? 来解释圣经就行吗
No, of course not. 当然不
But the bible was written and interpreted by mortal men. 但圣经是被凡人们写成并解释的
And many of those interpretations were reflections of the time 里面很多的解释反映了当时的时代背景
And what they lived. 及人们当时的生活状态
So you feel completely free to question it? 所以你就能随便的质疑它吗
Because... 因为...
I think it's blasphemous. 我觉得这是一种亵渎
I don't think God minds questions. 我不觉得上帝会介意质疑
He might not be thrilled with all our answers. 也许他并不满意我们原有的答案
I think blind faith is just as dangerous as none at all. 我认为盲目的信仰和没有信仰一样危险
I've never questioned my faith. I... 我从没质疑过我的信仰 我...
I've never had reasons to. 我没有理由去质疑
Sometimes to question it... 有时候质疑
Helps you find a deeper faith. 会帮你找到更深刻的信仰
Bobby stopped coming here. 鲍比不来教堂的原因
I think the reason was... 我想是
He couldn't never allow himself to feel worthy of God's love. 他觉得自己配不上帝的爱
And we didn't help. 而我们却什么都没帮上
Mary... 玛丽
Have you ever heard about P-FLAG? 你听说过P-FLAG吗
It's a national organisation. 他是一个国家型组织
It's parents and friend of lesbians and gays? 全称是 同性恋者亲友团
No, that's not for me. 不 我不去那
They could help. 他们能帮你
You'd be able to see you're not so alone in this. 你会觉得你并不是孤军奋战
Bye Reverend. 再见牧师
No. There's a woman in Concord, Betty Lambert. 在康科德 有位女士叫贝蒂·兰博
You'll love her. 你会喜欢她的
She has a gay son in his 30s. 她30岁时发现自己有个同性恋儿子
I just had a few questions. I don't need anything else. 我只是有些问题 我不需要其他的了
Just in case. 只是以防万一
It's true. There's a passage that says if children are disobedient 真的没错 圣经里有一章说到如果孩子
They should be put to death. 违背父母 他应该被处死
And I mean no one interprets that litteraly. 我想说没人只从字面上去理解它
What I'm saying is... 我想说的是
If the church no longer interprets that litteraly, 既然教堂已经不再按字面解释那一条
Maybe homosexuality is also on that list. 也许同性恋也一样
Well, maybe. 也许吧
Well, don't you think that's important? 你不觉得这很重要吗
Mary, I wasn't that keen with 玛丽 我对圣经该怎么理解
The first interpretation of the bible. 没有那么大热情
Well, it could mean that Bobby's in heaven. 可是那意味着鲍比可能在天堂
Yeah, well, he's not here. Right? 是 但是他没在这儿 好吗
Why isn't that enough for you? 为什么你还是不满意呢
Is it enough for you?! 你满意了吗
Does it make it any better? Everything you're doing? 你做的一切 让事情好转了吗
What do you want me to do? 那你想让我做什么
Just forget about him? I can't do that. Maybe you can. 忘了他 我做不到 也许你可以
I don't wont to forget about him, Mary. 我没有 也不会忘记他的 玛丽
I want to remember him. Then I want to move on. 我想要记住他 但是生活也要继续
But I can't! 但是我做不到
Nobody can... 没有人可以
Just walk away. Like you always do. 又走了 你总是这样
You never deal with anything. 从来没有正视过问题
Oh, I see...maybe 我明白了
Maybe if I did, Bobby would still be alive today? 如果我面对了 鲍比今天可能还活着
Is that what you're saying? Is that what you think? 你是这个意思吗 你是这么想的吗
You can answer me! 你能回答我吗
Listen Mary, we both made mistakes. We all made mistakes. 听着 我们都有错 所有人都有错
But it's done, he's gone. 但是已经结束了 他已经走了
We're not gonna bring him back. 我们也不能让他再醒来
I know that!!! 我知道
Don't you know I know that?! 你不知道我知道吗
Mary? I'm Betty. 玛丽 我是贝蒂
Hello. 你好
Betty Lambert. I'm so glad you called. 贝蒂·兰博 我很高兴你打来电话
Please, come in. 请进
Reverend Whitsell told me what happened to Bobby. 韦氏教士告诉我了鲍比的事
I can't imagine what it must feel like to lose a child like that 我无法想象那样失去一个孩子是什么感觉
How long has it been? 过去多久了
Six months... 六个月
Six months and a few days. 六个月零几天
Our son was 14 when he came out to us. 我们的孩子向我们出轨的时候是14岁
Isn't that a little young? 那不会太小了吗
I knew before then. 在那之前我就知道了
We, mothers, we always know. Don't we? 我们作为母亲总是知道的 不是吗
And you were ok with it? 你们觉得那没问题吗
Oh god, no. 上帝 当然不
I don't think any parent hears the news and thinks oh Goodie? 我觉得不会有家长听到之后会觉得"真好"
Goodie Wasn't the first word that came to my mind. 至少那不是我的第一反应
Mary... 玛丽
Why don't you come to a P-FLAG meeting with me? 为什么不和我参加一次PFLAG的聚会呢
No, I'm... 不了 我...
I'm not good at talking in groups. 我不擅长当众发言
So don't talk. 那就不发言
Just come and listen. 就来听听
I think you'll be shocked 你会大吃一惊的
At how many people think they were the All-American-Family. 那么多人觉得自己家本是绝对美式家庭
I'll think about it. 我会考虑的
Eric was taunted in shcool all the time. 埃里克在学校总是被人嘲笑
Mary, you came. 玛丽 你来了
I can't stay long. 我不能待很久
That's great. Come on in. 没事 进来吧
I was so furious, I went to the principal. 我气坏了 我去找校长
But he didn't do a thing to the boys who did it. 但是他不愿意让那个男生受到惩罚
I was shocked by that. 我吃了一惊
I called them fruits, and ferries. 我叫同性恋是基佬 玻璃
I didn't know. 我之前不知道
It took me a long time to accept my Sam. 我花了好久才能接受我的萨姆
I think I alway knew. 我想我一直知道的
I mean... 要知道
He asked for a pink Lacoste shirt for his birthday. 他问我要一件粉红色鳄鱼衫作为生日礼物
He was always different. 他总是与众不同
So he tells me he's gay... 所以他告诉我他是同性恋之后
What do I do? 我能怎么办
I take him hunting. 我带他去打猎
There he is in his pink Lacoste shirt, 他穿着他的粉红色鳄鱼衫就去了
He saw a deer and yaled run, Bambi, run? 他看到一头鹿 就大叫 斑比 快跑
I always knew I could love my son 我相信我会永远爱我的儿子
I never thought I could accept him. For who he is. 但是我没想过可以接受他是一个怎样的人
Well, when Gil told me she was gay. 当吉尔告诉我说她是同性恋时
I insisted she see a psychiastrist. 我坚持让她去看心理医师
But when that man suggested shock therapy, 但是当那个男人说要进行电休克疗法
I looked at my baby and, the hurt in her eyes. 我看着我的宝贝 她的眼神告诉我她很受伤
I thought this is crazy!? 我想我一定是疯了
Ah, hello reverend! 你好 教士
Please, come sit down. 快请坐
- Hi guys! - Hi reverend! -你们好 -你好
Glad to see you're all here tonight. 很高兴今天晚上你们都来了
As you may know, Reverend Whitsell is 就像你们知道的那样
A pastor of the Metropolitan Community Church, 韦氏教士是公共社区教堂的一名牧师
And he's proposing a gay freedom day 他在向沃纳溪市政议会申请
To the Walnut Creek city council. 设立"同性恋自由日"
The city council vote happens in about a month. 市政议会的投票大约会在一个月之后进行
And I would love all your support. 我希望你们都能支持我
Mary! 玛丽
Mary? 玛丽
Mary, what are you doing out here? 玛丽 你在这里干什么
You're soak. Come inside. 你都湿透了 快进来
I didn't know where else to go. 我不知道还能去哪儿
I was sitting there, 我坐在那儿
Listening to all their stories. 听着他们的故事
About how they... 他们都说
Always just knew... 他们一直都知道
Their kid was different. 自己的孩子与众不同
And then I had this dream tonight... 今天晚上我做了一个梦
Bobby was a baby. 鲍比还是一个婴儿
My son was always different. 我的儿子一直都是与众不同
His difference began at conception. 在他成人的最初就已经与众不同
I knew that. 我知道 的
I felt it. 我感觉得到
I know now... 我现在知道
Why God didn't heal Bobby 为什么上帝没有治愈鲍比
He didn't heal him because... 没有治愈他是因为
There was nothing wrong with him. 鲍比没有什么不正常
I did this! 都是我的错
I killed my son! 我杀死了自己的儿子
You did not kill your son. Bobby killed himself. 你没有杀死他 鲍比自杀的
How could God forgive me? 上帝会原谅我吗
How could Bobby forgive me? 鲍比会原谅我吗
God has already done the forgiving. You have to forgive yourself. 上帝早已原谅了你 你要原谅自己
I'm so sorry! 我错了
I'm so sorry! 我真的错了
Dear god. 我的主
Give us something we can live with 请给我们生活的勇气
And pass on to others whose lives will never be the same 并将勇气带给那些因为爱者已逝
Because of a loved one's death. 而生活无法继续的人们
I did not decide on brown eyes for myself. 我没有自己选择褐色的眼睛
And I now realize that Bobby didn't decide to be gay. 现在我明白 鲍比没有选择做一名同性恋
If you say in your word 如果你说
That it is evil and wicked to be born with no arms, 生来没有胳膊的人是邪恶而受诅咒的
And a child is born with no arms, 那么一个生来没有胳膊的孩子
What is that child to think? 要怎么想
Our first order business is a proposal 我们今天的第一项提案是
For a gay freedeom day in Walnut Creek. 在沃纳溪设立同性恋自由日
Attention, please. 请肃静
We have a select group to debate the issue. 我们有代表对这一提案进行辩论
- I don't see her. - ...it's reverend Whitsell. -我没看到她 -有请韦氏教士
For one day, 我们希望有一天
For one day, 在这一天
People can celebrate their difference rather than feel shame. 人们可以庆祝自己的不同 而不是感到羞耻
Hey should be ashame! 他们应该感到羞耻
There are so many other people 还有那么多人
Who need our time and our attention. 需要我们的时间和关心
Why are we wasting it on this? 为什么要浪费在这上面
Alright, alright. Let's have some order here please. 请遵守秩序
They spit in the face of decency and morality. 他们玷污了体面和道德
We cannot allow the fabric of our society to be torn apart. 我们这个社会中的所有人都应该团结一致
Right? 不是吗
I heard he tries to run for the Human Relations commission, 我听说他想要竞选加入人权委员会
They picked that limped Whitsell instead. 但是他们最后挑了瘸子韦氏
They sent him a letter. 他们寄给他一封信
I said, 'We sing hymns at our church'. 我说 我们在教堂中唱赞美诗
What do you do with the hymns at your church? 你们难道在教堂里搞基吗
So unless anyone else has anything else to add, 我们要休会做出最后决定
We'll adjourn to make our decision. 还有人要补充的吗
Mary? 玛丽
Hey Dad! 爸
Dad, get in here! 爸 快进来
Dad hurry up! Mum's on TV. 爸 快点 妈上电视了
Homosexuality is a sin. 同性恋是一种不可饶恕的原罪
Homosexuals are dommed to spend eternity in hell. 同性恋者被判死后下地狱永世不得超生
If they wanted to change, 如果他们希望改变
They could be healed of their evil ways. 他们可以被治愈 远离邪恶之路
If they would turn away from temptation, 如果他们愿意远离诱惑
They could be normal again. 他们会再次变得正常
If only they would try and try harder, 如果没有用
If it doesn't work. 他们就应该更加努力
These are all the things I said to my son Bobby 这些是我发现我的儿子是同性恋的时候
When I found out he was gay. 对他所说的话
When he told me he was homosexual, 当他告诉我他是同性恋时
My world fell apart. 我只觉得世界天崩地裂
I did everything I could 我尽我所能
To cure him of his sickness. 想要治疗他的病态
8 months ago, my son... 八个月之前
Jumped off a bridge and killed himself. 我的儿子跳下一座大桥 自杀了
I deeply regret my lack of knowledge about gay and lesbian people. 我深深地后悔自己对同性恋知识的缺乏
I see that everything I was taught and told 现在我明白 我所受的教育
Was bigotry and dehumanizing slender. 都只是固执偏见 缺失人性
If I had investigated, beyond what I was told, 如果我曾经多去了解 而不是墨守陈规
If I had just, 如果当初
Listened to my son, 在我的儿子对我坦诚相见的时候
When he poured his heart out to me... 我能认真听他说
I would not be standing here today with you 我今天就不会站在这里
Filled with regrets. 心中充满悔恨之情
I believe 我相信
That God was pleased with Bobby's kind and loving spirit. 上帝为鲍比的善良有爱而高兴
In god's eyes kindness and love are what it's all about. 在上帝的眼中 善良和爱才是一切
I didn't know that each time 我不知道
That I echoed eternal damnation for gay people... 每次重复对同性恋的永世诅咒
Each time I referred to Bobby 每一次 我都是在说鲍比是
As sick and perverted and a danger to our children... 病态 堕落 威胁着孩子们的安全
His self-esteem, 他的自尊
His sense of worth, were being destroyed. 他的价值观 都被我所摧毁
And finally, 最终
His spirit broke beyond repair. 我对他的伤害无法补救
It was not god's will 鲍比翻过人行护栏
That Bobby climbed over the side of a freeway overpass 跳向一辆重卡
And jumped directly into the path of an 18 wheel truck 当场死亡
Which killed him instantly. 那不是上帝的旨意
Bobby's death was the direct result 鲍比死亡的直接原因是
Of his parents' ignorance and fear of the word gay. 家长的漠视 他们对同性恋的恐惧
He wanted to be a writer. 他想成为一名作家
His hopes and dreams should not have been taken from him 他的希望和梦想本不应该被剥夺
But they were. 但是被我们剥夺了
They are children like Bobby, 有些像鲍比一样的孩子
Sitting in your congreggations, 坐在你们的教堂之中
Unknown to you, 与你们不相识
They will be listening, 但他们会聆听
As you echo Amen 当你们念出阿门
And that will soon silence their prayers. 他们也许将不再祈祷
Their prayers to god, for understanding, 向上帝祈祷理解
And acceptance, 接纳
And for your love. 和你们的爱
But your hatred, and fear, 但是你们的厌恶 恐惧
And ignorance of the word Gay will silence those prayers 和对同性恋的漠视 会让他们放弃祈祷
So... 所以
Before you echo Amen In your home and place of worship. 你在家中或者教堂里念出阿门之前
Think! 先想一想
Think and remember. 请记住
A child is listening. 一个孩子在聆听
Oh, Mum... 妈妈
Should be good. 应该没问题
He lost. 他输了
They voted the order install. 投反对票的人更多
Well, he'll try again next year, right? 他明年还会继续努力的 不是吗
So, we're really going to San Francisco? 我们真的要去旧金山
I think we have to. 我们必须去
I don't think that's a choice. 我想我们没的选
That's ironic. 还真是讽刺
Ok. 好了
Are we late? 我们晚了吗
Just in time! 刚刚好
Just in time. 刚刚来得及
Jacky, is this everyone? 杰姬 所有人都到了吗
Oh! Honey, no... 亲爱的 不
Come with me. 跟我来
We have a special place for you. 我们为你们预留了一个特别的位置
Ok . 好的
1984年国际同性恋节日
同性恋亲友团
To all the Bobby and Janes out there... 我想对世界上所有的鲍比和珍说
I say these words to you as I would with my own precious children. 我把你们当作自己的孩子
Please don't give up hope on life. 请不要对生活失去希望
Or yourselves. 不要对自己失去希望
You're very special to me. 对我来说 你们都很特别
I'm working very hard to make this world a better and safer place 为了让这个世界为你们变得更好 更安全
For you to live in. 我在努力着
Promise me you'll keep trying. 答应我 你们会继续坚持下去
Bobby gave up on love. 鲍比对爱失去了信心
I hope you won't. 我希望你们不会
You're always in my gods. 你们永远都是我的天使
My name is Bobby Griffith. 我叫做鲍比·格里菲斯
I write this in hope that one day, 我写下这些 希望有一天
Many years from now, 很多年以后
I would be able to go back 我可以回过头
And remember what my life was like, 记起我的人生曾经是怎样的
When I was a young and confused adolescent, 当我还是年轻而彷徨的少年时
Desperately trying to understand myself in the world I live in 绝望地想要明白在这个世界上我是谁
The other reason I write this, so long after I died, 另一个原因我写下这些 也许在我死后很久
Others may have a chance to read about me, 其他人可以有机会读到我的故事
And see what my life as a young person was like. 看到我作为一个年轻人的生活是怎么样的
On December 6th 1995, Mary Griffith testified 1995年12月6日
Before members of the Congress of the United States. 玛丽·格里菲斯得到了美国国会支持
Her tireless work protecting the rights of gay and lesbian youth 她为保护同性恋青年所做出的不懈努力
Has established her as a major force 奠定了
In the fight for human rights. 她在捍卫人权运动中的中坚力量
Before you echo Amen in your home or place of worship, 当你在家中或者教堂里念出阿门之时
Think and remember. A child is listening. - Mary Griffith 记住 一个孩子在聆听 玛丽·格里菲斯
In loving memory of Bobby Griffith and Leroy Aarons 仅以此片纪念鲍比·格里斯菲和雷若伊·艾伦